Friday, January 05, 2007


Oh the joys of decorating. The joy, the pain, the migraine. I find myself unable to make minor decisions about most anything these days, including what color and style of window treatments to put up in the master bedroom.
I have spent about 2 hours a day shopping and thinking about this. I found some curtains I liked and they were on sale, but then thought maybe I liked them BECAUSE they were on sale. So I took one out and threw it over a chair by the window so each morning and night I could take a gander at it and come to a final decision. Decided yes, that would do quite nicely for both the curtains and the cornices and yippee it was on sale.
Then hubby makes a teeny weeny comment that he's bored with the tan and green color scheme that seems to be taking over our home. Now the reason for the tan and green is because the tile we got stuck with has this orange undertone to it and nothing but tans and greens seem to, well, blend.
So back to square one because I now have that creeping doubt in my mind yet again.
Today decided to go with this deep plum color because it's the color of the matting in two of the pictures I will hang in the room. Found some pretty sheers at Lin&Thingies, but there were only two panels and I need 5. They also had them in sage green, the color of the duvet, so I said 'f it' and bought four of those for good measure. Also purchased 2 plum swags which have enough material to them to cover the cornicing. Checking out, find they are on sale for a mere $10 instead of the usual $24. Yippee again.
Now I have about $300 worth of drapery in my bedroom and can't decide what to do. Is the plum too dark? Too shiny? Is the green to much like the duvet? Then what color do I paint? Is a neutral cream going to be too bland? Another color too much? Do I have any idea what the hell I'm doing?


I find myself watching hours of HGTV getting idea after idea, but none of them anywhere near the vision I have for the bedroom. I have now mentally redecorated my entire home 3o times over, and still have no idea what I'm going to do about the windows in the bedroom. And as I believe I mentioned before, my ass is still blinding the neighbors or any other fool who happens to look up at night. Clock is ticking and I need to make a damn decision.

And then it hits me. The reason I am wallowing in self doubt is because I am finding any way possible to avoid thinking about fertility crap. Because in the recesses of my mind I feel I failed at that. Lost control of something. Am not able to get what I want no matter what decisions I make or how positive I am or how hard I try and reach that goal. ALL of my friends have children, or are going to. Even Lauren, who I mentioned on the last post, has become pregnant from her first IVF.
Am I happy for them? Yes
Do I wish they didn't have children? No
Am I anguished and plagued by 'why couldn't it be me'? You betcha

Maybe I'm sick of green because it's the color of envy.


Stephanie said...

Decorating is so hard! I worked with a decorator and found that I could not make any decisions with out her opinion. I am horrible at it! Good luck with the decisions!

Bea said...

I suck at decorating. I need someone to take control as well, like stephanie, above. Got any talented friends willing to lend a hand? Got a digital camera and feel like handing over control to strangers on the internet who admit they can't make decorating decisions?

Sorry your envy is eating you. I wish it wasn't that way. It's a natural feeling but damn, does it ever screw with your happiness.


Anonymous said...

I do like Bea's suggestion - post pics and we will help you decide!

serenity said...

Yeah. Decorating is pretty stressful. I like Bea's idea - post some pics and we'll help!

And hugs, too. It's so hard to feel 'left behind.'


Baby Blues said...

Decorating is hard especially if you're OC! And it's even much harder to deal with IF and be an OC... it drives me crazy! Sometimes I wonder if I'm obsessing too much over wanting to get pregnant. It sucks to be envious but I just can't help it. I'm with you on that.

Karen said...

hi there, you left a comment in my blog asking about our foster son. I'd be happy to answer your question, but would prefer to do so email address is estie2972 [at] gmail [dot] com. I'd just prefer that his biological mother never come across my remarks in a google search or something, so I try not to get too specific in blogger, since I don't have it passworded.